Can Marriage Not Be A Gamble?
Leo | August 9th, 2009 | Classics | No Comments »
Recently, I was with a group of married friends who are mostly in their 40+ who asked me how marriage life is. I was out of words because it is just hard to describe at times how blessed and blissful I am to now be with Rox as my wife, soul mate and life partner.
However, I was a little surprised when most in the group collectively responded with…should I say, ‘not too encouraging’ response. Why? Many of them commented I was still in my honeymoon phase and that it’s a matter of time before my ‘bliss’ fades into monotonousness and unending responsibilities, tasks. I do remember too that someone mentioned, “wait till you have your first child…”
It reminds too of another friend I met during reservist who has been married for 3 years, and was already sick of marriage life with his spouse…
I smiled as there’s nothing I can do to prove myself. I know that these are common viewpoints out there in this world but I really wanted to say, “Rox and me will be different”, and that if there’s anyone’s marriage who will work out well, I know it will be us!
Why do I have such confidence when most people feel that marriage is a gamble? It is because I know the framework of love where I build my relationship with Rox is one that will last. We build our love on basis of commitment and friendship, such that when beauty fades, we have something that will last the test of time.
I took a long time to find someone like Rox, someone that I know can be my best friend. She shares my passion in people, compassion for the hurt, mission for the world. She shares my values in love and commitment, in saving ourselves for each other. We share many similar interests like taking walks, communicating, cracking silly jokes or doing silly things together, travelling and exploring. She’s intelligent and can understand my concepts.
We may be simple, yet very disciplined in love. We have decided to walk in love, beyond just falling in love, and we work hard daily to stay emotionally connected, so that our friendship fire burns brightly.
I can’t prove myself now. I don’t have to. Time will tell